# Extent of Duty to Care for Parents - Contributing to Their Retirement

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**Created:** [October 19, 2026, 6:23pm UTC](https://omnifora.com/t/extent-of-duty-to-care-for-parents-contributing-to-their-retirement/6122 "2026-10-19T18:23:23Z")\
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**Author:** ![alex](https://omnifora.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/a/db5fbb/32.png) [@alex](https://omnifora.com/u/alex)\
**Post date:** [October 19, 2026, 6:23pm UTC](https://omnifora.com/t/extent-of-duty-to-care-for-parents-contributing-to-their-retirement/6122/1 "2026-10-19T18:23:23Z")

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I would like advice on a problem I see coming in my future. I’m concerned about breaching the 5th commandment.

My dad wants my help to pay for his and his wife’s retirement. I am a young CPA and I make fair money but I was hoping to provide for my wife in a way she can work far less or not at all and raise the children we plan on having soon. Furthermore, I would need to save for myself and my wife’s retirement so that we don’t become a burden to our own children when it comes time for us to retire.

I don’t see this becoming an issue until about 10 years from now, so I don’t know what position we’ll be in financially by then. I won’t let my dad become destitute but I don’t think he should rely on me to be a significant contributor to his retirement. He has not lived a fiscally sound life. He’s been a loving and supportive father and raised me as faithful as he could. He is a good man at heart so I don’t have anything against him I am just uncertain on where my responsibility is in this situation.

I try to give him financial advice as best I can but I can’t make him save more or live more appropriately to be in a better position by the time he’s too old to work. I anticipate his wife will have significant medical complications with age, and I believe they are both significantly underfunded. I am not sure I would be able to contribute enough without putting severe financial burden on my own household.

Am I shirking my duty to honor my parents and breaching the 5th commandment in this regard?

Thank you for your time. God bless you and Woe.