# No Attraction Where There Should Be Attraction?

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**Created:** [March 23, 2026, 10:01pm UTC](https://omnifora.com/t/no-attraction-where-there-should-be-attraction/5260 "2026-03-23T22:01:03Z")\
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**Author:** ![ssillyg00se83](https://omnifora.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/s/f4b2a3/32.png) [@ssillyg00se83](https://omnifora.com/u/ssillyg00se83)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2026, 10:01pm UTC](https://omnifora.com/t/no-attraction-where-there-should-be-attraction/5260/1 "2026-03-23T22:01:03Z")

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**Topic Suggestion/Request** :  
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No Attraction Where There Should Be Attraction?

**Reasoning** :  
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I have recently gotten a girlfriend, and this woman is everything I have ever wanted in a woman. She wears head coverings and skirts without being asked, she wants to cook and do the dishes for me, she wants multiple children, she is deeply caring and concerning, and there are many other things. I think she would make an amazing wife, and yet, I seem unattracted/bored, although she is somewhat cute. I was very infatuated with her in the first few weeks that I met her, but it is not quite the same now. I know I would be an absolute fool to throw away such a good thing. I do really like her, and I deeply care about her, but I have that problem. Am I just getting used to her in my life and have gotten over the initial thrill of finding exactly what I want? Am I trying to be emotional about her when I don’t need to be (as a man)? Will my feelings grow? Is there just an ebb and flow that I am making out to be more than what it is? I was exhausted the day that thought started, so perhaps I am overthinking this.

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**Author:** ![daniel8841](https://omnifora.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/d/dfb087/32.png) [@daniel8841](https://omnifora.com/u/daniel8841)\
**Post date:** [March 24, 2026, 8:34pm UTC](https://omnifora.com/t/no-attraction-where-there-should-be-attraction/5260/2 "2026-03-24T20:34:42Z")

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I have only seriously dated one girl and I seem to remember that the emotional high faded after the first couple of months. When I first started dating this one particular girl, I initially found her voice to be unattractive, but over time I came to see it as being cute. This may be controversial, but sexual attraction (not in a physical way) was what initially drew me to her, and I would even say made it easier for me to be around her. Things ended up not working out because we had some major personality and value differences (I learned that things like values, personality, and IQ are actually important). Not sure if any of that helps, and if Corey overrides anything I just said, then listen to him instead.

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**Author:** ![mahler](https://omnifora.com/user_avatar/omnifora.com/mahler/32/7_2.png) [@mahler](https://omnifora.com/u/mahler)\
**Post date:** [March 28, 2026, 4:41am UTC](https://omnifora.com/t/no-attraction-where-there-should-be-attraction/5260/3 "2026-03-28T04:41:57Z")

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Answered in this episode: [AAC: 27 Mar 2026 (Q&A)](https://omnifora.com/t/aac-27-mar-2026-q-a/5271)